If you owe the bank $100 ...

If you owe the bank $100, that's your problem. If you owe the bank $100 million, that's the bank's problem.

The Law of Desperation works most of the time!!!

There is a very interesting law in nature, which I call "The Law of Desperation". What is The Law of Desperation? It can be best illustrated by many daily situations.

When you are rushing for an appointment and you try to get a taxi, you will end up not getting one or you get one after a long wait. When you are sitting for an examination, what you studied was not tested and what you are tested, you missed studying them. When you are desperate for a girl friend, you could not find one. When you are desperate for a job, you could not get one. When you need money badly especially when you just start working or building your family, you have little. When you don't need much later, you have more. When you are beside your phone for a couple of hours, nobody called you. But, when you just walked away, you missed three calls! You bring your umbrella with you every day, there is no rain; and when you finally decide not to bring it along, it rains. I had a friend who had been faithfully paying the insurance premium for his Dependent Protection Scheme (DPS) for years. The moment he stopped paying the premium because he was too busy going in and out of the hospital for his dialysis, he died without the insurance coverage. There are so many situations if you think about it...

Since The Law of Desperation always operates when least expected, let's expect the unexpected. Be inspired. Don't be desperate.

Are all Principals like this? SELF-RIGHTEOUS..

Recently, I learnt from a friend of mine that his young wife after childbirth was diagnosed with Stomach Cancer. Since then, she has been put on Chemotherapy treatment. The doctor said that she has about three more months to live. It is sad to hear this. What makes the sad news sadder is that people refuse to learn, unlearn and relearn.

I understand that her sisters, in particular the one who is a school principal, were the ones giving instructions to this cancer-stricken sister of theirs. The husband does not seem to have a say in what to do for his wife. Is the Principal always right? Is she being too authoritative? Has she updated her knowledge about the latest alternative treatment available to cancer patients? Is Chemotherapy the only treatment for cancer? Do you know what Chemotherapy does to the body? Why are western-trained doctors resisting or rejecting alternative treatment? Does anyone know what causes cancer? If this patient has only three months to live, what is the risk of trying something which might just work for her? I have so many questions which I want to pose to this particular Principal sister who seems to be very self-righteous!!! If a principal behaves as such, I am not sure if it would affect her leadership performance in school? Could she be more open-minded? Has she learnt to unlearn and relearn? I feel perturbed by all these unanswered questions!

Are You Suffering from DEPRESSION?

Adapted from http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/depression.html

... Lately Lindsay hasn't felt like herself. Her friends have noticed it, too. Kia was surprised when Lindsay turned down her invitation to go shopping last Saturday (she always loves to shop). There was really no reason not to go, but Lindsay just didn't feel like it. Instead, she spent most of Saturday sleeping.

But staying in more than usual isn't the only change in Lindsay. She's always been a really good student, but over the past couple of months her grades have fallen pretty dramatically, and she has trouble concentrating. She's even failed a couple of tests, and she hasn't yet turned in a paper that was due last week.

When she gets home from practice, she's not hungry for dinner. Though she usually manages to eat a little something with her family, she just doesn't have much of an appetite - and nothing seems to taste as good as it used to. After dinner, Lindsay goes to her room, does a bit of homework, and goes to bed. She's not even in the mood to talk on the phone with her friends.

When her mother asks her what's wrong, Lindsay feels like crying but doesn't know why. Everything seems wrong, yet nothing particularly bad has happened. Lindsay just feels sad all the time and can't shake it. Lindsay may not realize it yet, but she is depressed.

Depression is very common and affects as many as one in eight people in their teen years. Depression affects people of every color, race, economic status, or age; however, it does seem to affect more females than males during adolescence and adulthood.

Message on Easter 2006

My message for the students of Sunday School during Easter Celebration was outlined as follows using EASTER as an acronym:

• Experience Him
• Ask of Him
• Serve Him
• Thank Him
• Enjoy His Blessings
• Remember Him

Happy Easter !

HE had no servant, but they called HIM Master.

No Degree, but they called HIM TEACHER.

No Medicines, but they called HIM HEALER.

No army, but Kings feared HIM.

HE won no Military Battles, but HE Conquered the World.

HE Committed no Crime, but they Crucified HIM.

HE was Buried in a Tomb, but is ALIVE TODAY.

HE is Humble, but will Always be Exalted.

HIS name is JESUS. HE is our HOPE & GUIDE.

Warm wishes to you especially in this Holy Week.

HAPPY EASTER!

Entreprising, Promising and Forward-Looking...

One of my business partners and I spent about six hours on Thursday, conducting an intensive business training for some of our young entrepreneurs. These are students in tertiary institutions and they are already embarking on an international business that is borderless. As I was sharing with them, when they start young and early, they might just graduate and be semi-retired.

They are not just enterprising but promising and forward-looking. They know what they want. They are prepared to sacrifice certain things in life to get what they want. I have every confidence that under proper guidance, they would emerge a new breed of youth who would achieve much more in a much shorter time. I always encourage them not to reinvent the wheel but build on the success of the existing system and the experience of others.

May I offer them my best wishes for their continued success. Cheers!

An HOD with Good Emotional Intelligence !!! - Mr Kandesan

I was invited by Mr Kandesan, the Head of Department (HOD), Pupil Development of Elias Park Primary School, to conduct a Motivational Talk to about 200 Primary 5 students. Mr Kandesan is the first in my eight years of school speaking engagements that sat through the entire session of my Motivational Talk, interactively participating in the talk and at appropriate time, reinforcing some of the ideas that I presented to the students. It certainly enhances the impact of the message on the students.

I would like to register my deep appreciation for Mr Kandesan for being quick to see the value of my work. He is able to connect well with people at all levels. Despite being a Discipline Master, I could see that he is such an approachable person whom many students went to for advice and help. I saw him in action with my own eyes.

He is certainly a very special person whom I have met, with very high EQ! He feels that in any partnership, it has to be win-win. I related to him some incidents that happened to me with other schools where the partnership was one of win-lose. There were a couple of schools where I was taken for a ride, and a free ride of course!!!

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A Man Who Has Learned, but FORGOTTEN to UNLEARN and RELEARN...

A friend of mine from another MLM company invited me to meet up with one of his top leaders from Malaysia. He made special effort to arrange for the appointment and he even took no-pay time-off to sit through the discussion with me. I am deeply appreciative of his kind gesture.

However, when I was sitting across the round meeting table face to face with this top leader who is apparently a veteran in the MLM industry for the last 29 years, after breaking the ice, he started throwing his weight around.

He started bashing almost every MLM company and their system, pointing out all their negative features and shortcommings. He even commented on a person who has changed a few MLM companies within a relatively short period of time. I was just waiting to see when he is going to stop criticising all these companies and their systems. When he did not stop and i could bear no longer, I stopped him and asked if he could tell me about what is so good and so great about his present company.

When he started explaining, frankly, his company is NOT at all different from those that he bashed earlier. Earlier on, he commented about that person who switched a few MLM companies. So, I presumed that he had stayed in the same company for the last 29 years. But, to my rude shock, he has switched five MLM companies within the 29 years. So, is he any different from that person just mentioned? He even made remarks that were wrong, about a certain company whose background I know pretty well. I knew he did not get his facts right!

As far as I am concerned. this man has committed many mistakes in his business conduct and communication. He should not have run down other companies. He should just tell people about the strengths and good things about his present company! He should not be "A pot calling the kettle black". It is common that people switch from one company to another regardless of industry. I just feel that his 29 years of experience is simply one year of experience repeated for 29 years!!! I told him towards the end of the meeting that today, we should "Learn, Unlearn and Relearn". Whatever that was applicable 29 years ago might not be relevant or usable anymore today!!!

He also told me that he has authored a couple of booklets when he knew that I am an author. So, when I requested for a copy of his book for exchange. He hesitated for a while and pulled out a copy from his briefcase, but with much discomfort, he said that that was the booklet he wrote when he was with the previous company. It is no longer applicable today since he has already left that company. Hmmm... He probably hate my guts! My friend seemed to "idiolise" him so much! I wonder why?

Well, humility is hard to come by nowadays! Pride comes before any fall!

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