Do you say what you mean and mean what you say?

I often notice that people like to say things they don't mean and mean things they don't say. Are you one of those?

If you visit someone at his home and it happens that the family are having their dinner, usually, they would invite you to join them out of courtesy. But, they don't really mean what they say. So, be polite not to take the invitation literally. The family might not have enough food for you. That is just a form of greetings, unless you are invited repeatedly and the host grab you by your arm and have you seated at the dining table. Then, you know they mean what they say!

One evening, you are out with your girl friend at Mount Faber and she says to you, "Dear, it's pretty cold here!". Now, what do you make of this? Most guys might say, 'Yeah! It is.' And that is precisely the reason why many girls think most guys are "kayu" which means "a piece of wood" in Malay, i.e. not sensitive to girl's feelings. In this instance, actually, she might mean what she does not say or is shy to say, i.e. "I want a warm hug!" Most guys might not be sensitive enough to pick up such hidden meaning in communications with girls, in particular. The girl will be utterly disappointed as a result.

So, be sensitive, discreet and quick in communications, sometimes, there are hidden meanings that are not explicitly expressed. We just have to learn to pick them up quickly!